The truth about being in your 20's and having no friends, let's get into it.
The pandemic caused such a huge shift in a our friendships, you could say both for the better and worse. And I know you felt it too 😭.
During the pandemic, it showed us the people we feel we value and who we think will keep us strong, physically, mentally and psychologically. Friendships or friend spaces are never moving in a straight line, the principle if rhythm is what I refer to.
In our 20s, we are in the process of establishing ourselves in the professional world. We are also figuring out who we are and what we want out of life.
With all these things to juggle, it is no wonder that friends don't seem like a priority.
I came to notice that there are very few personalities that can be truly okay with having little to no social interaction.
Back to life, back to reality ✨
But that's not the only reason why people lose friends in their 20s. There is also the reality of real life - practicality and finances. You might not have time to hang out with your friends because you have a job or you're too busy with other commitments like your family or school work.
We lose friends because of the reality that life is not always happy or perfect. We grow up and our priorities change, sometimes without even noticing it happening.
Social media can make it easy for people to keep in touch with friends but also makes it harder for them to actually get together in person. However, now more than people feel very alone. So, Does social media actually bring us together ?
The era of social decline😭
As people are more and more drawn to their own screens, it is becoming increasingly difficult for them to focus on the people around them. This has led to a decrease in social integration and increase in individualism.
The increasing use of mobile devices, the expansion of social media, and the rise of individualism are all factors that contribute to this trend. For example, social media has given people a platform for self-expression which can lead to less desire for human interaction.
Networking is a huge way of life, but even now it's harder than ever. There are people who are very much obsessed with the idea and of networking" that they now only see other people as tools.
Along with social decline we notice no care for humanity of people, everything for gain and gain only
We've all been there when a friendship starts to go sour. A friend is hardly ever perfect. Sometimes there are things that just don't click 🤷🏽♀️
It’s okay to take time out from friendships and work on yourself
In other words, it’s okay to let friendships fade out. Although you may feel guilty picking and choosing your circle if it means fading out on friends, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. There’s value in curating that network of friends and acquaintances of your own volition.
Not everyone can fit into your current friendscape. That was quite literally the case in the age of lockdowns and social distancing.
There is one thing that can help you maintain friendships as you get older - being serious about friendship management. It means taking responsibility for your friendships and making an effort to see friends on a regular basis, even if they don't live nearby or have the same interests as you do.
Reasons you have “no friends”
You have a career goal
School and college, I’m over it!
Discovering the real life
Behaviour changes
Priorities are different now, PERIOD!
Valuing your privacy because I’m an introvert
No interest anymore, I have work to do
Final thoughts
It’s not uncommon for people to lose friends in their 20s. That’s because, at that age, we are all focused on managing our lives and careers. We are trying to find our place in the world, so it becomes difficult to maintain relationships with people who don’t share the same interests or priorities.
"Rafael Santandreu" People just need two things in order to be happy: food to eat and somewhere to sleep. Any other need is an artificial need.
Do you need friends to be happy? Please share your thoughts 👭
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